I recently received the most beautiful gifts from an Anonymous Darling! Little did I expect to open two gorgeous boxes to find not one but TWO salacious spoons and an amazing little coin known as a lover’s token! More below the cut!!!
so why the fuck do we shame poor people for giving themselves little luxuries like starbucks and second-hand designer purses but nobody says a damn thing about rich people wasting extravagant amounts of money on gold-plated toilet seats and shit?? if you have so much extra fucking money that you’re spending it on a third sports car you may as well donate it to someone who really needs it. why the FUCK does society try to shame poor people for not wanting to be miserable all the time but turns a blind eye to rich fucks squandering huge amounts of money on useless shit. why.
HOLY FUCKING SHIT THANK YOU!!!!!!!!
Definitely. I think it’s morally wrong to spend exorbitant amounts of money on unnecessary crap when there are people starving in your city.
No it doesn’t. In fact, it was coined in response to another term (GSM) by a survivor in order to get away from that, and it’s cruel to say that it includes paedophiles.
I thought mogai was getting unpopular because it included pedophiles??? Or did at some point??
no. i don’t know where this is coming from. it was coined by a CSA survivor in response to criticisms around ‘GSRM’ including/being coined by a paedophile/s
it’s particularly annoying that people accuse MOGAI of including paedophiles when it was coined by a survivor, specifically to exclude paedophiles whilst creating an effective umbrella term for the community
is that what happened?? how did MOGAI get put under the bus for a different acronym’s failings?? I heard this outside of tumblr once when I used MOGAI and it didn’t make sense to me at all. Are there any other issues with it that I don’t know about???
I think we really need to reaffirm now that no amount of homophobia can be acceptable in our culture. There is no such this as harmless or victimless homophobia. All homophobia contributes to violence against us. You can not “disagree” with lgbt people’s “lifestyles” without supporting the rhetoric and legislation that puts us in very real danger.
Homophobia isn’t that black and white though. You can hate the sin and still love the sinner.
OK, as a queer person who grew up in a genuinely loving, caring, utterly wonderful, and still deeply homophobic Church, let me try to fill in what you’re not understanding about this whole “Love the sinner” deal.
When we refer to people like you as “Homophobic” I want to be clear what we’re saying here. This is not a judgment of your intent. We are not describing you as a hateful person, as an aggressive or violent person. But we are saying that your actions and your attitudes participate in and reinforce a system of rhetoric that encourages violence against LGBT people, and, far, far more importantly, that forces millions of LGBT people to live in shame.
That’s really what this comes down to. Not hate. Not violence. Shame.
Consider the point purely theologically. Jesus tells us that to desire a sinful thing is as bad as to act on that desire. My lusting after another mans wife is as bad as actually sleeping with her. My genuine desire to hurt someone is as bad as actually hurting them.
So when you tell me that loving another man is a sin, you’re not just talking about physical acts of intimacy. You don’t get to draw the line there. You don’t get to pretend that I can be bisexual so long as I never actually physically act on it (which is already a terrible burden to place on someone). You’re saying that every time I look at a guy and imagine how soft his lips would be, or think about how beautiful his eyes are, I am sinning. I am a sinner every time a dude walks past me with a tight sweater on that shows of his arms. Every time he has nice hair or a nice smile.
My love, according to you, is a sin. That is the burden you are forcing people to live under. That burden forced me so deep into the closet that I didn’t even know I was there. It forced me to repress every genuine feeling of sexual attraction for other men, and to live for years with those feelings straining to get out, whilst I struggled with the constant guilt and shame that came from having those thoughts.
And I am one of the lucky ones, because I’m alive to have this conversation. Because for many, many LGBT people that guilt and shame manifests as self-harm, substance abuse, low esteem that leads them into abusive relationships, and very often suicide.
You tell yourself that you’re one of the good ones because you don’t hate us. You only hate what we “do”. But what we “do” is living. It’s being alive and whole and a part of this world, and if you genuinely believe that we can’t have that then you might as well put the gun to our heads and pull the trigger. Because you’re already doing that, you just don’t have the guts to admit it.
“You only hate what we do, but what we do is living” Wow. This is beautiful and so well written
reblogging for perfect commentary and future reference
